Is the Grass Greener...Or is the Sun Brighter.....
As I walked through the mall yesterday I couldn’t help but compare. There are so many things I wish I were, not things like professions, things like character or appreance. Before you say I have a low self-esteem I’ll stop you, I have a good self esteem for the most part. I think its just human nature to see the grass as greener.
I always look at the tiny little girls and want to be all cute and little, pocket size.
I look at the intellectual girls and think how sexy that is, and wish I were at that level.
I see a girl out for a run and think how freeing that looks; I wish I were more athletic.
Get my drift?
Even when we are feeling the best about ourselves, that thing called doubt creeps in.
“If only I were……….”
If only, If only…
If Only…Then I wouldn’t be me…. Who ever that is.
I always look at the tiny little girls and want to be all cute and little, pocket size.
I look at the intellectual girls and think how sexy that is, and wish I were at that level.
I see a girl out for a run and think how freeing that looks; I wish I were more athletic.
Get my drift?
Even when we are feeling the best about ourselves, that thing called doubt creeps in.
“If only I were……….”
If only, If only…
If Only…Then I wouldn’t be me…. Who ever that is.
posted by Kate Michele at 5:29 PM
13 Comments:
And those people you compare yourself too..then compare themselves to you. They wish they had a nice bust, fabulous hair, wonderful children and a fantastic husband.You ARE so very lucky in so many ways.
No one is ever 100% satisfied with what they have...blame it on human nature.
if you weren't exactly who you were, i wouldn't heart you exactly as much as i do!!!
you are gifted and talented and gorgeous and stellar. i realize that there are doubts and that's what makes us human...doubt it, just don't forget it! ;)
I wanted to be as cool as you and get a hat like you just got, but I didn't really have the money to spend on it. And I want your hair!!!
Yes, it's human nature :)
You're already cute and smart and sexy :)
I want your hair too haha
And so you know, it isn't just girls who wish they were different...
You have a booty. I want a juicy booty.
You have cleavage. [not that I oogled, your girls were just fallin' out-no I'm kidding. I only said that cause you were stressin' over it. and they weren't] you have great hair. maybe girls look at you workin' what yah momma [and daddy] gave ya and think..."dang. i wish i had all that..."
people are never satisfied. we always want what we dont have. even though if we thought about it-what we have is perfect.
I've oggled ;)
I love curvy girls with cleavage and hips. I like the love handles sticking out from the hip-huggers a bit.
I also like really finly formed women who are thin but have just enough shape so you know it's all girl.
See also those tall Amazon types, see also those petite little packages.
Thank heaven for little girsl, and those other sizes, right?
Thing is, most women are, aside from whatever prejudice of age and whatnot, absolutely awesome. Yet they seem (no matter which way they are awesome) to be unaware of this.
Yet guys...a guy can be 320 lbs, having neglected any grooming beyond nose picking for a week, have no job and no real prospects you could detect, and figures he's really a pretty good catch.
Oh dat grass is always greener over there!
i dont think there is anything wrong with taking up a new hobby- be it running, reading, whatever...i think it *is* possible to be you, but healthier, smarter, stronger...wiser...it's when you let it become the ONLY thing you see that's the problem...
who doesn't want to *improve* themselves?
i say its normal.
but then, that could be just so that i can excuse myself when the self doubt kicks in a little... ;)
Oh I know just what you mean. I always wanted to be taller... or shorter. I always wanted my hair to be straight... or curlier. I wanted either no freckles or more.
AND I always wished my nose was smaller. I always hated being what I thought was average. I guess I'll always look at other women and think... If only I could look like that... sigh.
I think most people (especially women) fell this way at one time or another.
I know I do.
I wish I were taller. I wish I still had my figure from high school. I wish I could be tanned (without the risk of sun damage of course) - like those girls who always seem to glow with bronzed goodness. I've never understood that.
we all do that.
i'll look at girls wearing buisness suits and think, i hope i'm successful one day.
or moms with their little babies and think, i hope i can be good mom one day.
there's nothing wrong with it.and like you said, it's totally human nature.
of course, i'll read your blog sometiems and think, i wish had depth like Kate.
I think it is also good to keep looking and finding admirable qualities in other people as it allows us to form goals and to be able to better ourselves... I would say that every day I think I wish I was XXX. 90% or the time it really is meaningless... but that other 10% may be what drives me to exercise, diet, read interesting/informative info, work harder, have more patience for my family.... the list goes on! hehehe
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